Do you think about your fertility on a continual basis? It can include worrying about the possibility of being unable to conceive, the long and uncertain journey of trying to conceive, the emotional and physical toll of fertility treatments, and the consequences of not being able to conceive.
People ruminate about fertility problems because they may be feeling overwhelmed by the stress of trying to conceive, or they may be dealing with feelings of guilt, shame, or failure. They may be trying to make sense of their situation and figure out what to do next. Additionally, ruminating can be an attempt to try and gain a sense of control over the situation.
How To Break A Rumination Cycle
- Divert your attention. Find activities such as listening to music, talking with a friend, or exercising that can help you focus on something else.
- Avoid triggers. If certain things like social media, movies, or TV shows seem to be causing your rumination to worsen, it’s best to stay away from them.
- Use a worry timer. Allocating 10 to 30 minutes of your day to worry can help you feel better about ruminating.
- Mindfulness. Immerse yourself in the present moment. Focus on the sights, smells, and sounds around you to help bring you out of the cycle.
It’s understandable that you’re feeling worried about your fertility, but try to focus on the positive. There are many treatments available and success stories out there of couples who have been able to conceive after struggling with fertility issues. It’s important to remember that you don’t have to go through this alone, so don’t hesitate to reach out to your doctor or a fertility specialist for advice and support.
Where you can find support
Your fertility clinic should be able to provide you with support and all HFEA licensed clinics must offer counselling. Here are some other patient support organisations.
Fertility Network UK: Fertility Network UK provides comprehensive online resources and support for those affected by fertility issues, including a helpline and online forums.
British Infertility Counselling Association (BICA): BICA offers support and information for those affected by fertility issues. They provide online resources, a helpline and access to counsellors and psychotherapists.
Fertility Friends: Fertility Friends is an online support group for those affected by fertility issues. They provide support, information and advice through their online forums, chat rooms and helpline.
Seed Trust: The Sperm, Egg and Embryo Donation (SEED) Trust provides support and advice to those considering donor conceptions. They provide a helpline and online resources.
Authors
Matt is an NHS Consultant in Newcastle with over ten years of experience. His PhD research into subfertility and miscarriage involved developing a clinical trial and patient engagement.
